Saving A Marriage (How To Avoid Divorce) – Proven Techniques. At one time you were in love with your spouse and your spouse was in love with you. But right now you might be confused because suddenly, your spouse is no longer in love with you. They want out, they are disconnected. They’re disengaged, they might even be disappeared, for now. They might be gone. And you’re thinking Is it really possible?
Is it possible to get my spouse to come back and how? How can I get someone to come back? Who doesn’t want to be here? How can I get my spouse to fall in love with me? Who doesn’t love me anymore. Is it possible? And the answer is, Yes, it is possible. We have seen marriage after marriage Saved. We know how to save relationships & we believe that any marriage could be saved. And we believe that any person can be rescued.
It’s all about knowing what to do and knowing what not to do. So, in this blog I’m gonna teach you the seven things that you need to be sure that you know to do and not to do. In order to save your marriage & bring your love back. Even if right now, they completely want out. Here’s the thing, this stuff really does work.
We’re gonna teach you these things for you to learn for you to implement. First of all, I’m teaching you them now, for free. You can start doing these things today. And, if anything works, our guarantee is that these things will work.
“Number one Tips on saving a marriage – No matter what your marriage can be saved”
This isn’t comprehensive, but this is absolutely enough to get you started to get you going and to get you on the right track. So without further ado, let’s start with #1 Tips on saving a marriage – when your spouse wants out and you feel like there’s no hope for your marriage. A lot of times it can be easy to want to give up. A lot of times we can look at our friends marriages, our parents, marriages.
Other people that we know and we can see how all of them ended in divorce. So why should ours be any different? Maybe we should just settle for the fact that our marriage is doomed. It’s over and there’s nothing we can do. It can be so easy to give up. Most importantly when you have friends, therapists, counselors, even pastors, who might be telling you that there’s, no hope for your marriage and it’s over.
Here’s the thing they don’t know what we know, which is your marriage, can be saved. You don’t have to give up. Especially not before giving it your all. Giving it the last fighting chance that you have is we like to say. We strongly believe that there can be hope for your *marriage. So don’t give up. Especially don’t give up without giving this a try. #2 On saving a marriage (How to avoid divorce) – when you’re in a situation like this, where your spouse wants out.
“Learn not to Plead or Cling”
A very natural reaction that we have as humans is to try and get our spouse to stay. If someone that we love is about to leave us, then our natural reaction is to cling. To do everything we can to try and convince them to stay. & not let them go out the door. Figuratively or literally. And that’s something, that’s born in us as children. You see kids do that, often when they are starting to realize what separation is from their mom or from their dad.
And how they interact with that and it works as kids and it’s a way that ingrained in us to try and make sure that we feel safe. But as we get older it doesn’t work as adults. When we start to clean, when we start to beg, when we start to plead. It can actually push further away the person that we’re wanting to stay. So you don’t want to do those things.
#3. You also don’t want to let your spouse call all the shots right now. You see opposite of the one we just talked about. If you just concede to everything your spouse says, because you’re scared of them Getting you’re scared of them getting mad. They already want out, so you just want to make them happy so that maybe they’ll end up coming back. That’s not the way to do this either. Be sure that you are being strong for yourself.
“*Learn How to save your marriage – being strong & calm”
Don’t just become a doormat. Where you do everything someone says to do. Even if you don’t agree with it. If they’re wanting you to do something, maybe financially or anything like that, that you don’t feel comfortable with. You don’t have to do it. There’s a way that you can stand your ground without coming across as mean or as rude or anything like that. We call it being strong, calm and gentle.
We talk about these principles in many of our blogs, where we have so much more information on exactly how you can implement those things. #4. On saving a marriage from divorce. You do want to stand as strong and find support. When you’re in this situation, it can feel very lonely like there’s nowhere to go. There’s no one to turn to. Because maybe the people you have turned to have told you you’re crazy for wanting to stay in a situation like this.
Or maybe the people you have talked to about it have been really judgmental of you. Maybe you’re just embarrassed. And all of that is completely understandable. It’s so important in this time for you to find a strong support system. #5 Tips on saving a marriage. You also want to work on yourself during this time.
See if your spouse wants out and they’re out doing whatever they’re doing that they’re wanting out. Because of maybe it’s an Affair, maybe they’re, just not happy anymore. Maybe there’s been just a lot of negative things that have happened in your marriage. A lot of fights a lot of things that have been left unresolved that have ended up pushing them out the door.
“One of ways to save your marriage (become the better one)”
Whatever that might be this is a great time for you to take advantage working on you. Working on you, physically, emotionally and spiritually. It’s gonna guide you through how you can work on yourself to become the most attractive that you can be. We have a saying that people don’t leave what they have. Till they believe what they’re going to is better. Not to say that that is necessarily true, it could be that your spouse is going to be alone.
Maybe they’re not going to another person. But the fact is, there’s something that’s drawing them away. & it might not be something that you have done. But you do get the opportunity to become the better one. Because, ultimately, you want to be that person who, when your spouse wants to finally come back home, that they see that you are the better.
They want to leave what they had out there and they want to come back to you because you are the better. So keep that key in mind. #6 Tips on (how save your marriage). You want to forgive. You may not feel like forgiving, and I completely understand. There’s probably things your spouse has said or done. That has hurt you immensely. But if you continue to hold grudges – or you continue to let these things harbor anger within you.
Then it’s going to change the way that you feel about your marriage. It’s going to change the way you feel about your spouse and it’s, going to change the way that you interact with your spouse. That could ultimately end up pushing them away. You forgive for you. You are not forgiving because you are saying that (you’re in agreement).
“One of the ways to save a marriage is by becoming a better spouse”
Or you agree of anything that your spouse is doing. But you forgive because it frees you. So may be you want to keep that in mind as *well. And then finally #7. You want to stop doing the things that are destroying love in your marriage. If you’ve been doing any of them. Controlling in the past, you’ve been someone who just constantly nags. If you’ve been someone who tells your spouse, they need to change thing about themselves before you’ll love them.
Whether you actually said that, in your words or just in your actions. Those things don’t harbor love. It’s not an environment where love can grow and love can foster. So during this time, as you’re working on yourself as you’re not overwhelming your spouse by begging or pleading. Or any of that you’re working on becoming a better spouse.
Work on becoming a better wife work on becoming a better husband right now. Bcoz then when your spouse comes back, it makes the process of putting your marriage back together so much *easier. I cannot emphasize this enough. You absolutely can learn to fall in love again. It’s absolutely possible. We’ve, seen marriages and situations. I’m sure just like yours that have been at the end.
Where everyone believed that they would or should divorce. That they weren’t meant to be together. However else you want to put it. And we’ve seen those marriages saved. But it’s a process. And the seven things that I’ve shared with you at the beginning of this blog Is the first part of that process? You don’t need to be worrying about how you’re gonna reconcile right now, or anything like that.
“Another tips on saving a marriage from divorce (Soften your situation)”
The first thing, and really the only thing that you need to be focusing on right now, are what you can do to soften you. To soften your [situation], your outlook on your marriage, & strengthen your resolve and to work on yourself. Then, when your spouse starts coming back around. Then we’ll. Go to that next step. We’ll start talking about how do you reconcile? How do you do that part? That’s not where you are right now. Focus on where you are now.
Get everything done, that you need to get done in you & your interactions and in forgiving your spouse and being able to move forward? Because you are gonna need that no matter what happens going forward. This is just a few of what you can do. If you want to know more, then make sure to comment below. Let us know how we can expand on things, how we can further help you. No matter what your situation is. We believe there’s hope for you and we believe that we can help you. More blogs coming up on tips to saving a marriage. Love & Peace 🙂