How to Become a High value Woman (How to Win Him Over!). In fact the beginning of a relationship, both the men & women test each other. Sometimes it’s conscious. Other times it’s subconscious. They don’t even know that they’re doing it. But one thing is for sure.
How you respond to these tests will set the entire tone of the relationship. So this is very important to understand what’s going on when you are being tested. And what you can do to respond accordingly in a way that will build attraction. & help you to be fully respected in the way that you deserve to be.
So let’s jump into these points & know how to identify them. Now there’s three tests that I want to talk about (Tips on How to be a High value Woman). There’s the attraction test. There’s the sarcasm test and the consideration test. Each one of these are different and they’re testing for different things. So it’s important for you to have a baseline understanding so when these situations come up you are aware of it. And you can make the right decision.
Now I’m going to run through three different tests and these tests very often are almost designed in a way to break down your value. And to allow a man to get whatever he wants in a selfish way. And I’ll I’ll explain that shortly. But it’s important for you to be aware of these things so you don’t ever cross your standards. You don’t go below your threshold of what you need and who you are.
“Number One Tips on How to be a high value woman – The Sexual Test”
You remain a high value woman. Now the 1st test is probably the most common which is the (sexual test). There is a couple of different ways that it can manifest. But basically a guy is testing you to see how quickly he can sleep with you. And in fact he may even be testing you to see what percentage of the relationship can be spent just for fulfilling his sexual needs. Versus actually building an intimate relationship so go into both of those.
The first is just him escalating physically. I mean that is how he’s testing you. He’s constantly escalating physically or he’s escalating verbally. So if he is touching you and if he is moving closer to you if he tries to kiss you it might even be more subtle where he’s just in your *personal space. He maybe puts his arm around you and does things that you might not be overtly sexual. But he’s escalating and also verbally.
If he says things most of the time that are flirtatious & sexual really early on. It maybe even before you met like in an online dating site or over the phone. These are pretty much red flags. If a guy is trying to be that persuasive before you even meet. If you’re looking for a long term committed relationship I would encourage you to just be very very cautious.
“Tips on how to win him back – hold yourself to your own standards”
So how do you pass the sexual test. It’s very very simple. Basically you hold yourself to your own standards & you don’t allow his escalation to go past where you don’t feel comfortable. And this is a huge issue. I speak with so many women who feel pressured and they don’t want to seem like a prude. Or they don’t want to kill the mood. And so they allow the the escalation even though they didn’t want it. Or felt like it was too soon.
And this is very important, a high quality man is someone that you are going to want to spend the 🙂 rest of your life with. He is going to respect you and care about you, desire for you to feel comfortable. That’s key. You only want to be with someone who considers your comfort not someone who’s going to try to make you feel uncomfortable.
Or someone who doesn’t care about you feeling uncomfortable just so they can fulfill their own selfish sexual needs. That is exactly someone that you want to run away from. So if a guy is really pushing you or making you feel bad because you are waiting too long for him. Or he’s trying to make you feel like you’re slow and that’s not how dating is.
That is a guy who’s using shame, guilt or manipulation to get you to do something that makes you feel uncomfortable for his own sexual gratification. And exactly that is not someone that should not be attractive to you. So the way that you win this test is by not listening to him at all, not escalating and pretty much running away. Or setting the boundary and being very clear that this is not happening at your expectations.
“Tips on how to win him over – Intimate Vs Other Activities”
This is happening when we both want it to happen and the other side of the coin is not just speed at which he escalates. If you’re already intimate with one another it’s just kissing or whether you’re sleeping together. Then the question becomes what is our relationship. Do I only see him maybe late at night when he comes back. And we say hi for a minute and then all of a sudden you know we’re getting physically intimate.
Do we spend time outside with friends or social circle doing things that are not physically intimate. What percentage of time are we spending together intimate versus in other activities. And is that OK with me is that what I’m looking for. And is he only reaching out & every time you see him. Is it all about the physical intimacy. Because if that’s the case more than likely you’re being used and it’s important that you are getting what you want out of it.
If that’s just what you want out of it great as long as you’re fulfilled. But it’s important to be aware of what your needs are and making sure that you require that and that you don’t just give someone and give and give and give. Without your own needs being met. It’s just like taking the oxygen mask we have to make sure that we are filled in a relationship.
“Never Allow to be manipulated – Quality of a high value woman”
Because if we’re not filled we have nothing left to give to the other person in the relationship or to our friends and family or social circle. So that’s the other side of the coin. And that’s how you pass the test. It’s basically standards you hold your own standards you never allow yourself to be manipulated or to lower your own standards. just to please someone else that’s people pleasing.
And it’s not helpful to you and ultimately it’s not helpful to anyone else. The next test is the sarcasm test. Now this is interesting but the root of the word sarcasm is stark and that literally means tearing into the flesh of. Tearing into the flesh I mean that is not nice. Now I realize that sarcasm can be really funny. I struggle with being overly sarcastic at times. And I can tell you that. If a man says *something to you that is not really nice.
In other words just outwardly if he just said it and he wasn’t joking. You’d say that’s not a nice thing to say. Like if he’s teasing you or if he’s kind of doing little criticisms about you. But he’s masking it in a joke it’s like I’m just kidding I’m just kidding. Lighten up.
I can tell you that is a red flag and he’s testing you at this point whether you realize it or not. If you just laugh along that’s basically training him that he can treat you in that way. You’re training him and he can say things that are not nice as long as he masks it as a joke. And that’s not OK. I encourage you to stop it and to let him know and to not laugh and say hey that’s not nice.
“Be aware of sarcastic statements (how to win a man’s heart)” .
I don’t think that’s funny. I really like it when you say nice things to me. The time when you joke in a nice way where you’re being nice to me. If you can maintain that and be aware of those sarcastic statements. And make sure that the sarcasm isn’t biting into you if you don’t respond. If you laugh along those sarcastic statements can turn into disrespect.
So that’s definitely a test to watch out for. And it’s one of the most common ones in our society. And when your relationship starts getting a little bit rocky many times it can begin with sarcasm. Just getting more and more sarcastic with one another because it’s kind of a passive aggressive way to communicate with a partner.
So keep an eye out for that test. And the final test is what I call the consideration test (Another Tips on how to be a high value woman). This is a very simple. This is just how he treats you. Is he treating you with care with consideration. & thinking about your needs.
Ask this..Is he being empathetic? Are most of his actions based around his own self-centered needs. & his own self-centered desires. And this is really important at the end of the day. You deserve a man who’s going to be kind and considerate thoughtful chivalrous. Someone who’s going to be nice and sweet and maybe he talks a big game.
But the bottom line how is he treating you. And if he’s not acting in a way that’s consistent with how you would imagine the woman that you value most in this world would expect to be treated. You deserve to be treated in the same way that the woman you respect most in this world deserves to be treated.
“Know the time to draw the boundaries – Another important tip on how to be a high value woman”
Why should you be any different. So if he’s not treating you to that standard then look at the relationship and ask Is this really what’s best for for me. No no it’s not. You deserve to be treated with care and consideration.
And that’s the time you draw a boundary and say this isn’t working. And if you can follow these three tests. Which at the end of the day are about increasing your values & standards. And not allowing people to treat you in a way that you don’t deserve to be treated. As long as you can keep standards up.
You will pass all the tests. This should be your authentic reaction anyway because you are a high value woman and you do deserve to be treated kindly. So I have no doubt that this blog should help you to be more aware and make sure that you’re nipping anything in the butt.
The moment that it happens and I appreciate you for checking this blog out. if you like this blog on (how to be a high value woman) make sure to comment below. Let me know if you’re aware of any if any of these tests and if there’s any other tests that you have been aware of in a relationship that might be helpful for us to discuss. I think this was very very helpful for you. So thank you so much for reading. Take good care. Peace 🙂